How to navigate wedding planning with your mom by your side
Planning a wedding is like embarking on a beautiful journey, one that’s filled with excitement, dreams, and a touch of chaos. But amidst the floral arrangements, seating charts, and bridal gowns, there’s a constant presence—the unwavering love and guidance of your mom. She’s not just a spectator, she’s your confidante, cheerleader, and partner in this adventure. As we celebrate Mother’s day, let’s explore how to embrace their wisdom, share the load, and create cherished memories as you plan your special day together.
1. Ask for her Ideas
Include your mother in the process of selecting a venue by taking her to visit any potential locations. Find out from her how she feels about each place. She is well placed to advise you on making a better choice given her experience and view. You could also bring her along for vendor meetings, such as when meeting photographers, or going for cake tasting. It would make her feel part of your big day.
2. Assign Responsibilities
Your mom’s help with planning the seating arrangements for the reception area would be of great help. Her understanding of family dynamics, relationships and connections may prove invaluable when guests get to sit in the right positions.
3. Express Gratitude
Take the time to write personalized notes to your mother, expressing gratitude for her specific contributions to the wedding planning process. Highlight the ways in which her support and assistance have made a positive impact on your journey to the altar and also during the wedding speeches, be sure to publicly acknowledge and thank your mother for her unwavering love and support. Share memories that illustrate her importance in your life and express heartfelt appreciation for all that she has done.
4. Incorporate Traditions
Incorporate family heirlooms or traditions into your wedding as a way to honor your mother's legacy and the traditions of your family. Whether it's wearing a piece of jewelry or displaying a cherished piece as part of the ceremony decor, these meaningful touches will add depth and significance to your wedding day.
5. Create Special Moments
Coordinate with your photographer to capture the emotional moment when your mother sees you in your wedding attire for the first time. Arrange for a private reveal before the ceremony, allowing for an intimate and heartfelt exchange that will be beautifully preserved in photographs.
You could also consider taking dance lessons with your mother in preparation for the mother-son/daughter dance. Not only will this be a fun and bonding experience leading up to the wedding, but it will also ensure that you both feel confident and comfortable as you share this special moment together.
6. Have Regular Check-Ins
Schedule regular planning meetings with your mother to discuss wedding details, review progress, and address any concerns or questions she may have. Keeping the lines of communication open will foster collaboration and ensure that everyone is on the same page throughout the planning process.
And while at it also be there to offer emotional support and reassurance, listening to her feelings and providing comfort during moments of stress or uncertainty. We all know how stressful wedding planning can be.
7. Understand their Perspective
Be willing to compromise on certain aspects of the wedding if it's of significant importance to your mother. While it's important to stay true to your vision for the day, be open to incorporating elements that are meaningful to her, as long as they align with the overall tone and style of the celebration.
8. Make them look and feel their best on the wedding day
Accompany your mother on dress shopping outings to help her find the perfect mother-of-the-bride or mother-of-the-groom outfit. Offer guidance and support as she explores different styles, ensuring that she feels confident and beautiful on your wedding day. Arrange for her to have hair and makeup services on the wedding day
9. Pre-Wedding Pampering
Organize group activities or outings leading up to the wedding to enjoy some relaxed and carefree time together with your mother. Whether it's a spa day, a leisurely brunch, or a scenic nature walk, prioritize opportunities for relaxation and bonding away from the stress of wedding planning.
By implementing these strategies you can create meaningful opportunities for bonding, collaboration, and celebration that will enrich your relationship and enhance the overall wedding experience for both of you.
If you’re in need of any wedding planning help, please don’t hesitate to reach out to us at planner@nyomplanet.com
Happy Mother’s day!
Cover Photo Credit: Well+Good
